Phil McGraw said the success rate for affair couples is less than ONE PERCENT..
This affair will NOT LAST... there's too much at stake.. These two were just having fun... there's tooo much pressure... now that its out the pressure's on THEM...
It won't last... we just need to keep distance and CUT HIM OUT until the H is ready to make a NC committment.
This means distance and silence only come from you until he offers a no contact agreement.
This separation stories are classic.. He will contact her again.. Affairs dont' fizzle out this fast.. they linger and slowly die with the pressure of reality.
Just get in contact with OWH and share as much info as possible...
Don't talk to H, make him aware he's made a MISTAKE... if you just keep chatting with him he will think he can exploit you... SHOW him he can't do that by putting up a WALL to him until he offers a No Contact Agreement
And tell him you do NOT want to hear ANYTHING his lawyer told him.. Your Husband has been LYING to you for weeks... his info about what the lawyer said is NOT reliable...
It may be accurate, but just IGNORE IT COMPLETELY... tell him you don't want to hear it or hear from him right now...
You TOLD him this earlier and now why did you give in? Don't let him do this.... It's NOT helping you to listen to him right now... shut him OUT is the best route. Even if he's apologetic. Shut him OUT and make him pursue you a bit and see he' sdone damage... he needs to know you are serious.
The way you show you are serious is by distance and silence.
