My issue with this is while it sounds great, it is just words(I seem to get a lot of words about this subject).
...There's also the issue of my job potentially coming to an end in 3 months-ish and then I'll be looking for work away from home. This would put more pressure onto her - the cleaning, dropping off\picking kids, walking dog, cooking etc that I'm helping with right now.
I'm frightened that would be it at that point.
....I just feel I've been pushing this rock up this bloody hill for so long and everytime I have a hint of success the bloody thing rolls back down again.
I can't go on like this forever - I'm going to try all the options I've got - and if those fail then we have to separate. I suspect I've got about 6-9 months before that happens. I'm beginning to wonder, if we didn't have kids, if we would've gone on this long.
I feel your pain. It has been 5 months since I have had sex with my LD wife and until recently she has been just fine with that. We are now in Sex therapy after she has had a full medical physical to make sure that there are no physical reasons suppressing her libido.
My suggestion is to let your wife know that you are at the end of your rope. Let her know that you view your marriage is in crisis and could end. Then tell her that is not what you want and get into joint sex therapy with a really good counselor (probably easier said than done).
I feel that trying to save a marriage, especially if there are children at home is very important. My children have flown the nest, but I am still trying to save my marriage.
One thing that has helped me are self-hypnosis & verbal affirmation CD's that I listen to in the car and while I am on a treadmill at the gym (via an MP3 player). They help keep my spirits up and have helped me with weight loss, exercise motivation, body image and stress relief.
Good luck and hang in there.
Last edited by Young at Heart; 01/28/1004:34 PM.
>43 years of marriage--My wife and I are now closer than we have been in decades. I believe that my SSM is over.
