Please, hurry up and figure it... we girls need the insight
Here is Sage's suggestion in a post to Talitsa
Quote: I dunno...here's what my gut tells me...that at least in my case, ow was still around long after he said she was. I think that she gradually started being diminished as I gained his attention and energy...I think the pull of the fear (of being alone, of being unloved) makes them keep ow around...like, can I really believe that this person still loves me, will truly forgive me? Maybe I should keep that safety net, JIC. Well..that doesn't make it any more palatable, does it? And why can't they see how much HARDER it is to reconnect with them around? Take you hands off the safety wire, folks!
I guess it may be the explanation... but why do they not realize that it defeats the purpose?
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
