I've hit a wall.. Now what?

[flowmom]

I agree about meeting on neutral territory. The home is a place with a lot of memories and baggage for both of you. You've made it into your home and that's definitely worth being proud of. But seeing your changes is actually best done in a public or semi-public place where he is seeing you "out of context". It makes him think about how others might see you too.

I only see H at home and I see that as a problem, because our home is where there was a lot of unhappiness and conflict. I would like H to be able to see me in a new setting and just react to me as a person who he knows but can't stick into a slot of the roles that I have assumed in our marriage and family.

Good luck with the meeting.