Ive been very hopefully so far.

[Hopingtomakeit]

I have been seriously working at this for a little over a month. My W decided to leaving me basically because i have for the last year or so been in my own little world and not working on showing her how much i love her. I told her and would even buy gifts from time to time but i have not made my wife a focus. I cared about my hobbies and my deadbeat job more.

When i got DR. I did a 180, i changed my focus and started helping more and making it a focus. I before was doing it half ass but now i am doing it for real and wanting to do it and making it a focus. I started taking walks and fixing things that have been broken around the house. I have lost 30 pounds. I wear nice shirts because i no longer have a dead beat job and may make alot of money soon. (its commission based...i have made money but i have to way for clients to fully pay before i get paid)

In one month, I have seen huge improvements in my wife. (thats why i dont think the papers i found are wrong). Now, the things i have seen are not what i wanted to see. I wanted to see a big i love you and get my wife back. That hasnt happened, however we talk better now. When the R comes up. (we try to avoid talking about it) Its pleasant and nice and understand each other. She has baked me thinks and thought about my needs. She has stopped looking at a world without me and focus on a world with me in it. No, i still dont get to kiss my wife, i dont get i love you's. However, i am closer to saving this then i was a month ago.


now the talk

When i got home. I told her, "you still havent removed him yet. Do you plan on doing that?" she said "I didnt realize that it was a right now type of thing." I said "I am sorry, you are unclear. Yes, you need to remove him." She then explained to me that she didnt see the point. That they have been friends for years and i never had a problem and now i do. She explained to me that they dont talk. That the only person who sees that there is a problem is me." I said "You may be correct on all the statements but i will not sleep with a wife who surrounds herself with someone who doesnt support us. Someone, who is actively trying to hide things from me. (this guy had me blocked on face book). She did piss and get upset and say she doesnt want to talk about it. However, she removed him last night because i wouldnt sleep with her if she didnt. I also made it very clear that i am not controlling her. She said "why am i do to if you have other demands like this." I told her that "I have never asked her to do things like that dont try to turn this into me being one of those type of guys. Also, i am not controlling you at all. I am saying if you choice to continue to be friends with him on facebook. I will choice to not be in this marriage."

I was odd but it worked. She was the one saying she wanted a D but when i threw a choice like that she submitted and took care of it. She is mad at me right now. She isnt angry not talking but she is annoyed that she had to do it.