What a schmuck!!! It breaks my heart because my D is about the same age, and being in the legal field I know what damage putting the children in the middle can cause. If I may make a suggestion, start keeping a journal of everything like this. If you didn't delete that message save it. It will help you to show what a controlling mindf*ck he is.
Sorry, first marriage was like this . I get really ticked off when I hear that some jack*ss is so abusive...
(((Hugs)))
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..