OWH is not on FB, and I have googled him and can't find anything. I think I have an address, so I need to go check it out. I found out his name from OW FB account, but her pics are blocked, so I don't even know what he looks like.
H filed for D yesterday )-:
Together 16 years Married 12 years Me 36 H 34 D9 & S6 Separated 12/3/09 Confirmed A 1/25/10 Exposed A 1/26/10 H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10
Here are a few things my H told me last night: "If we get divorced" "My lawyer said I don't have to do anything with the paperwork, I can sit on it as long as I want to". "We would lose $1500 if we don't get the divorce" - to this one I replied "That money is nothing compared to keeping our marriage"
He also said, maybe we will talk tonight. I got the impression from what he said about the OW, that she was scared off. Of course he tried to tell me they were just friends, but then he said "We no longer can be friends because she is worried about her kids and her job". They are under the impression that I found out from someone at her work. He also informed me that she has already filed for D from her H, and that they have been seperated for 3 weeks.
Together 16 years Married 12 years Me 36 H 34 D9 & S6 Separated 12/3/09 Confirmed A 1/25/10 Exposed A 1/26/10 H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10
Depending on where you live and how the family court system is set up (and how rapidly it is updated) all of the divorce proceedings between the OW and her H will be public record at some point.
Perhaps you can source contact info that way. Does your family court system have a website or can you make a trip down there?
He also informed me that she has already filed for D from her H, and that they have been seperated for 3 weeks.
It is VERY, VERY common for a statement like this to be a LIE.
Remember, all cheaters lie -- PERIOD. As someone said above, you need to verify this independently with OWH.
Also, a big ol' "DITTO!" to what was said above about NOT revealing your cards. This is PRECISELY why I advocate that people NEVER, EVER reveal HOW they know, or even necessarily WHAT they know, other than a vague "I know all about you and ______ ." Them not knowing exactly what you know, and what you DON'T know, is a HUGE tactical advantage!
btw, his rush to get the D is most likely coming from OW, who's probably giving him an EARFUL now of "See? I LEFT MY FAMILY, AND SCREWED UP MY MARRIAGE FOR YOU . . . YOU'D BETTER HURRY UP AND TALK THAT WIFE OF YOURS INTO A DIVORCE, AND FAST, CUZ I'M NOT WAITIN' AROUND FOREVER!"
Or something very similar.
Ahhhh, trouble in Paradise. You have to find some humor -- and relief -- in it, or all of this will drive you crazy.
I will check into the family court system to see if I can find out anything. However, I do think my H is lying about the OW and her H being separated. One of my sources told me that they were still together, and that OWH had no idea. I will be trying to contact him at their house as soon as I can. I know for sure OW works Monday nights. I would like to tell OWH sooner, but it may have to wait until Monday.
Together 16 years Married 12 years Me 36 H 34 D9 & S6 Separated 12/3/09 Confirmed A 1/25/10 Exposed A 1/26/10 H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10
You have to find some humor -- and relief -- in it, or all of this will drive you crazy.