Well, you need to find a way to cope with stress and worry. That is all there is to it. If you don't your body will start to rebel against you and your immune system will be compromised.
You have 2 more days of work which means (I would think) you have a paycheck coming this week and next. You can file for unemployment. You have savings if need be. Your expenses are fairly low. Sounds to me, even though the situation is not ideal, you have a decent safety net while you look for work.
You know, it's strange to me that you can find the SMALLEST positive your W does but you rarely see the positives in your own life. Instead you choose stress and worry and you crumble.
You will have food, shelter, transportation and the necessities for you and your children while you look for work.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need. “So don’t worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today’s trouble is enough for today. ~ Matthew 6:33-34
Me-44 WAW-42 (ILYBNILWY) S-16 S-14 M-10/17/1992 T23 Met OM 10/10/08; Bomb 12/27/08; Moved in with OM 01/27/09 Me stronger and happier everyday!
Thanks for that verse ppenton. I needed to read that tonight.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Focus on the job situation, but try and have a semi positive attitude about that as well. Put W on the back burner for now and just focus on the job.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
Because I miss her. I want to be with her. Our kids want us back together. I miss our family being together. I miss our M. Just because she may not consider our M and family important doesn't mean that it isn't. It is hard to let go of something you miss and love.
Kevin
I, I, I, I, I ......... this isn't all about you Kevin. True love means putting another's needs before your own. You talk a good game with your faith, but you really don't live it. Why do you continue to only see two possibities?
1. Divorce my wife 2. Wait for God to "bring her back to me"
You really are limiting the power of God when you only see these two narrow possibilities. You talk about His will be done, but only if it fits in your idea of what Kevin wants.
Since you seem to like to put all this in biblical terms, let's look at it this way: Detaching = Jesus or John the Baptist going off in the desert for 40 days to work on themselves. THAT'S what everyone is asking you to do. Go off in the desert for 40 days and work on Kevin. Care about your wife but don't worry about every little thing she's doing.
You HAVE to let it go. The tighter you hold on, the more you're going to lose it. You really need to understand this key concept or you're really not DB'ing. That is why you fail.
Can you do that?
Everybody hurts. It's part of life. Don't miss the good stuff.
And Kevin - on the flip side of that... what if your W said to you it had to either be divorce or reconcile and since she wasn't in a place to reconcile then divorce is what she chooses?
Chances are you would not like such a "black and white" stance from her yet you take the same "this or that" stance.
What you are now seeing from your W is her working on her. It seems like it took her a long time to get to the place of doing so but it seems to be happening. You should be doing the same.
Thanks. Read all the posts. Busy adjusting my resume and posting it.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
