RSF, I'm not up on your entire thread, so here's my opinion FWIW...
Have you popped into the "piecing" thread? It might help to read some of the posts there and see who the vets are ... ask them to stop here and give advice... You need someone who has navigated these waters to help.. and most of us aren't there yet.
Just remember - you've been putting aside everything you feel about your W since this started. The love may not have died - its just hibernating. Sorting through all of your feelings now that there actually is a CHANCE to Reconcile might help you determine that. If you are in IC - great - you have new homework. If not I suggest it. Plus it will help you deal with your D.
Good luck and congrats on getting here!! Don't give up when you are so close to the finish line!!
Talia
ME28,WAH30, M 5YRS, T 7YRS ,OW/ILYBNILY/SEP 9/09 Served with D papers 6/6/10 Current
