Journaling... I was glad to see S16 this morning. It started off slow, then he started to warm up and even cracked a couple of smiles. Couple of high fives. It was so nice to see that side of him, even if only for a moment. His therapist is encouraged, and cautious. I'm learning a lot as I walk this journey w/ S16. Got to work, and it was really nice. I'm exhausted... I have a tendancy to 'discount' my value, and today I just let the love wash over me as people stopped by my desk to welcome me back. Truly good people. I've told no one at work that S16 is hospitalized. They are used to my 'drama' so I'm just laying low and catching up on work. Having lunch with a peer Friday and I'll probably open up a little more to her. She is an abuse survivor as well, and she gets it. Today was a good day, my firneds. That's it...Goldey out.
Donna, the hospital is safe, and he is with the best professionals on the West Coast. I am truly blessed.
I'm going to court this morning before work. Having my docs reviewed by the staff to be sure they are all in order. I'm a little fuzzy on some of the financial stuff, it's all at the house and my STBX still has not produced any docs I've asked for. And at this point, why would he? D13 called last night and left a message, "Mom, you are using too many cell minutes and these phones aren't cheap." I wish the kids weren't trapped in the middle. Keep praying folks, we're almost there. p.s. I'm getting a writ that will allow for a deputy to perform an 'civil standby' while I remove my stuff on Saturday. Safety first!
Good luck in court this morning. You can do it!!!!
I hate that he is putting them up to get on to you. Gotta have that control doessn't he. You must be so happy to breath and not have that on your shoulders.
M:47 M:18 D16, S19 1st S 1/08-5/08 Reconciled/May 7, 2008 Left again Nov 9, 2009 I Filed: Nov 17, 2009 Final: April 14, 2010 EX walked away from kids too
What a schmuck!!! It breaks my heart because my D is about the same age, and being in the legal field I know what damage putting the children in the middle can cause. If I may make a suggestion, start keeping a journal of everything like this. If you didn't delete that message save it. It will help you to show what a controlling mindf*ck he is.
Sorry, first marriage was like this . I get really ticked off when I hear that some jack*ss is so abusive...
(((Hugs)))
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Saving all phone records from both phones (mine and S16), transferring to audio tape for court. This DB journal is my record of the last year and a half. I stopped journalling about a month ago (but still have it on the shelf), and rely on God to see that the right thing happens. I drew a good judge today, and once I pay the fees, this thing is over. It's over. I'm free. Finally. Purple puddles. Trent, I will see you soon. Kerry has my digits. God Bless you, DB'ers. All my love, Goldey p.s. Moving to Surviving. Don't forget to stop by my housewarming party Saturday night. (virtual for those who are far away) Peace.
