Kemper, Your last post was very relatable for me. I know how you feel with regards to your kids and marriage.
Why is she being so selfish? Doesn't she see how this will impact the boys? Why couldn't she even try to work on the R/M? How come the easy way out is the way it has to be, if you believe in something you fight for it? Why couldn't she just let me know that she wasn't happy before going outside the marriage and having an A? Will she ever regret her decision?
Hit it dead on here with those questions...I ask them often..or at least I did...now I've come to the terms (Sort of that I can't make my H change, feel this way or that way. But those questions lerk and do anger me.
What affects me the most is my H relationship with our son. He is a good dad when they do spend time together but it's nothing to have days 5-6 go by without him seeing him. We live maybe 3 miles apart. I know he loves him, dearly, but sadly his depression is robbing him of relationships and life.
I agree with you, it is bittersweet that there are so many of us here but restores my faith that there are good people out there who do value their marriages and vows.
that I can't make my H change, feel this way or that way. But those questions lerk and do anger me. 