cutter you are spot on... I would suggest going a wee bit easier... this is a very stressful time for someone ... BUt definitely that is the route to go smile

I support your ideas here cutter, I just don't want to upset any posters... I remember when I first found out about mine, I was terrified if anyone knew... I exposed the affair to her friends... but i needed time to emotionally process the whole thing...

It took me three months before I did ANYTHING other than cry

She'll get there... take your time my dear... we are all here and have been through this...

Your marriage is not over... Your husband is addicted and that WILL END.... YOU can end it... You just need to bring reality on him as soon as you are able... reality being exposure, bill payments, lawyers, friends and family shutting him out, etc

One day at a time and this will happen for you... The fact that the OW is married is a HUGE bonus to you.

- allen

Last edited by Allen A; 01/28/10 02:58 PM.