And Kevin - on the flip side of that... what if your W said to you it had to either be divorce or reconcile and since she wasn't in a place to reconcile then divorce is what she chooses?
Chances are you would not like such a "black and white" stance from her yet you take the same "this or that" stance.
What you are now seeing from your W is her working on her. It seems like it took her a long time to get to the place of doing so but it seems to be happening. You should be doing the same.
