Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[OnceBurdened]

I'm praying that my W hasn't poisoned them so bad, that they are in a "fog" as well.

That doesn't work. I've seen the attempt by 2 different parents in 2 seperate D's here locally and both times the kids sniffed it out. Remember, kids don't have adult problems, they are naive, genuine and unencumbered because of it. They know love and recognize it, she will always be their Mom & you will always be their Dad. They don't want to hear bad things @ either of you. Attempted poisoning by a parent will only push them toward the other.

I have hope that my boys will make the right decision. Time will tell.

They will and you will have to accept it.

The reason I say that - a gal I know won custody of her S in a divorce. The D happened because of her H having an A with another man! She discovered it filed for D, he fought for custody but she won.

She walked up to her S @ courthouse and said- " I Won"
S said - " I know momma but I want to live with Dad"
She said " OK, you know I Love You and if that is what you want I will support You"
She said it was the hardest thing to do, but now 3 yrs later she has realized how much closer it put S and her.

I personally could not have handled that situation. In my sitch, when the discussion surrounding custody came up the D wanted to go with W and of course S wanted to stay here with me. W & I decide that there was no way we were going to split them up and so we devised our own custody to accomadate their wishes. It was our intent to protect our children.

Foster them, protect them & love them unconditionally - you will win all that and more back from them in the end.