Need some help with moving forward.

[michaelCM]

So, here I am again. Talked to W last night, and I am honestly at a loss.
The more info I find out, the more I am convinced that the EA had started up again.
* turns out she had seen OM one other time besides last week. ("we had coffee together") I know that she is lying to me--telling me only the bare minimum.
* She got another ride home from OM besides the one I know about. Again, probably telling me only what she thinks she can get away with.
* She basically had nothing to say when I told her that she started up the EA again.
* She basically had nothing to say when I told her that she was willing to risk my trust and our marriage for him.
* She basically had nothing to say when I went through the progression of her having contact with him after a period of NC, and then slowly leading up to talking to him every day and seeing him once in a while, all the while lying to me and risking everything that we had gained and all the healing I had done. I told her that this is called addiction.

All she could say was "I want you to believe in me", "I love you", "I want only you", etc., etc.. Well, gosh, it seems like I have heard that before.

So, here is what I'd like some advice about: I can get her account info for all her stuff, and I can monitor it (and be less productive at work, stressed out about finding something) and just wait to be disappointed. Or, I can just trust her and not put myself through it, but at this point, I have no reason to trust her.

I'm feeling a bit numb right now.

Ugh.