Actually, he only wore his ring that once. We were supposed to have picked mine from the jeweller on Saturday, but we were late for our D's competition and did not have time.
Yes, you are right. I should tell my family and make it official. I just don't know how. My brothers and sisters will disagree with me but respect my decision but my parents will be terribly upset.
Part of the reason I do not tell them is, of course, that I do not trust him and do not trust this to work. And since I do not trust the experiment will work I do not want to upset my parents just to tell them later it is over for good.
I regret so much that I told my parents about the A and the D. At the time I had good intentions: I was certain it was over and did not want my parents to learn of it after the fact. Huge mistake: they are suffering and imagining all sorts of horror stories about him kidnapping our D and suing me for everything.... I've tried to explain to them that he never opposed anything and made it totally easy, but they've created this moster in their minds and don't seem to be able to let go.
I know, it is a self-fulfilling prophecy and my H is so attuned to my moods that I am sure he knows that it is lack of trust that stops me. And I am sure he is hurt by it.
What a tangled web we weave...
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
