Now listen, standing up for yourself is one thing. How you go about it is another. No negativity, that is a weakness.
Be kind but firm, so what if she acts like a selfish little child. LET HER. You will find when your changes stick and you handle all of this the proper way she will begin to change how she interacts with you, and it's NOT going to happen tomorrow got me?
See what I mean when I say this is about you?
Who you are or who you want to be.
How you want to handle yourself despited the fact that there has been some pretty shitty stuff that has happened.
Make it about you and you will not lose my friend.
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they told me, dad you got to keep your promises and quit talking about mom.
Smart kids.....
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i told her i need to make changes for me so they'll stick, and i didn't steal that from an earlier post and you might see them, but so far you're right, what you have been watching has justified everything you're doing.
i haven't given you anything to watch, haven't given anyone anything to watch other than a broken down desperate guy, working on that.
Stop it!! Stop stop stop stop stop stop stop.
We have been over this, time after time after time AYK.
This is BAD!! Stop telling her this stuff. It's HURTING YOU.
It let's her know....ok he hasn't changed yet. See this is why I don't want to be with him.
It takes all the power away from your ACTIONS when you finally DO actually start to change!!!
Again.....STOP TELLING HER ABOUT YOU AND YOUR CHANGES YOU HAVE OR NEED TO MAKE. STOP TELLING HER ABOUT YOUR MISTAKES. It's written plain as day in your DB book you just read again.
It's up to you to do the work.
I'm seeing a pattern here. I'm seeing certain advice you are receiving doesn't even get acknowledged by you times.
