Hey Maria, great post. I agree with Forrest...in spite of the fact that you do not want to lead, you are doing it anyway. You have no choice if you want change. We often read that actions are stronger than words or what your spouse says needs to be backed up with actions. What continues to surprise me daily in this case is that there are little actions and litlle or no words. Something you related regarding a phone number on his phone made me realize what you are up against. Instead of dismissing your 'request' why does he not just erase it in front of you....why does he downplay your requests as trivial like that. I would have erased the number immediatelly...but instaed he chooses to say that the phone number of his mistress of 3 years on his phone is no big deal....anyhow, I have gone on long enough about a mobile phone...good luck at the MC, hopefully he will begin to understand soon that your requests are NOT trivial and need to be adressed.
