One day at a time....

[Clife]

Hi, I'm new to this thread but have been following all of your sitches.
I wanted to say that reading these few comments has really helped me. I get to a stage, usually midweek when i feel like everything is on a downward slide towards giving up, texting an angry or pathetic plea to my H.
But I have always known i steered our marriage, i pushed. He is the laidback kind and i'm the driver, emotionally. Except where work is concerned, then he is very driven. Thats our problem.
Anyway, as you say, i need to let him be responsible for his feelings and i be responsible for mine.
If he takes longer to come to a conclusion that benefits the family i need to let him get there in his time.
Its just so hard. Waiting.
But i feel i'm getting better at that. Only i always used to let it fester and resentment overload caused our marriage to crumble.
How do you get the balance right in speaking your mind about your feelings of dissasifaction and not pushing for answers in a vulnerable time?
So sorry for hijacking your thread ladies. x