Where in the world did that come from !!!

[blownaway65]

OK so how do I handle this ?

Back in October the 2 younger kids and I decided to play tennis for our town and asked W if she wanted to play as well. Was an attempt to get us doing something as a family. She said OK.

So we are playing together, 8 in a team, the 4 of us and whoever else makes up the other 4. We didn't play the last 3 matches of last year because it was too hard for me to be there, played 2 weeks ago (when I discovered W's PA), but not last week - team had to forfeit.

Everyone else in the team knows W and I are separated, but not about PA.

When I set my boundary about the A 2 weeks ago I said we would not be her friends while the A continued and to get her stuff out of the house as well.

How do I turn up and play tennis with her on Saturday knowing that she will be going straight to OM's after we finish and there's not a damn thing I can do about it?

Kids just love tennis (as do I) and they are keen to play whether she is there or not. Man I wish I could detach as well as they do. You'd think they had been through detachment school