LIMBO NO MO!

[Gardener]

gima,

Not much going on. Don't know what it is W expects financially. Wading through the range of emotions of all this.

I'm with ya on all this. Although Mediation started to meltdown yesterday and I freaked and exploded. Felt good to get some of the anger out and tell 'em all (stbxw, stbxw's Lawyer & Mediator) To go to hell. They've all been calling me like mad. I don't answer. My L set up a group meeting for 2/3. We'll see.
No More Mr. Nice Guy.

[givingitmyall]

Gardener,

I have been watching your sitch and I think you are doing the right thing. Hang in there.

[Awoken]

Hi GIMA. Sounds like you and I are in the same place; a new kind of limbo while we wade through the D process. My L is working my answer to the D filing as well.

I've been lurking, and haven't posted much lately. Still been watching to see how you are doing; Just wanted you to know I've been thinking about you. hang in there buddy.

[givingitmyall]

Well, haven't posted much lately. And, that's ok.

STBX In-Laws roll into town tomrrow for the weekend. It's S's birthday. W is taking the kids to STBX In-Laws' hotel tomorrow for dinner and swimming. First time I won't be with them for a "family" event. But, this is a consequence of this process of D.

I will have dinner with friends on Friday night, then spend the rest of the weekend with the kids.

I am sorting through the down emotions. And it's a bit strange b/c I don't want my W, but I feel grief, which has to be for the loss of the family??

I know I will come out of this better off and will end up happier than I ever have been. While I KNOW that, I don't FEEL that right now.

Don't worry. Although I have been knocked off the horse, I will get back on.

Going home a little early for a run. God knows I need it.

[Gardener]

gima,

I feel grief, which has to be for the loss of the family??

Of course. And for the loss of the "familiar," your old normal, and the future you envisioned for so long.

I know I will come out of this better off and will end up happier than I ever have been. While I KNOW that, I don't FEEL that right now.

Yep. I don't know if there's anything we can do to begin feeling it. Like detachment, it just "happens". It just takes time, like so much else.

You're in my thoughts.

[givingitmyall]

Thanks Gardener.

[Greek]

Hey there, GIMA! I've been swamped at school lately so MIA but keeping up with you. Question: are you still wearing your wedding ring? Is she?
Greek

[givingitmyall]

Greek,

I haven't worn my wedding band since early December. W still wears hers.

[TulsaTime]

GIMA,

I'm sorry to hear about your sitch.

We're hangin' with ya bro.

[tryingtilDorR]

It is interesting that your W still wears her ring. Mine took hers off a few weeks ago and it bugged me.

Why do you think she still wears it even though she has filed for D? Do you think it has something to do with your kids - she doesn't want to explain to them why she doesn't wear it or they may not even notice/care??

Interesting.