It's killing me. I feel like I am close to a breakthrough to her. We are "dating" and if I don't take her out on Valentine's day the date night of the yr then I am screwed. But like I said, I only feel like I am close to a breakthrough, the reality is thee is most likely no love yet and thus, sharing valentine's day with her is a sham.
Second stage is becoming friends again. Here I would do something that shows you understand who your spouse is - 5LLs, music they would enjoy, a book, fix something around the house, etc. A gift that shows you have more than a business connection with them. A gift that shows a emotional connection but not romantic. Show them you understand them and that they matter to you.
Third stage is re-igniting the romance. If you are in Newcomers then you aren't here.
Im definitely in Stage 2. We are friends again. I read your sitch last night Coach. My wife wants to go on dates. She actually shows interest in making this work just doesn't want to talk about it. I guess it will simply be a heartfelt gift. Something that says connection but not love. Thanks for the advice.
Me 42/ W 40 /S 16 Married 15 Bomb dropped 11/18/2009 Nuke dropped 12/7/2009 EA/likely PA confirmed and busted 2/28/2010 Still separated in the same house and cant wait for this to end 5/8/2012
