I think you won't know what the 3rd step is until you talk to L. But possibly come up with a back up plan if he buys you out?

sleeping pill is good advice...sleep as you know helpsour brain to solve problems while our bodies rest!

me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004