Mixed Signals or is this Limbo Land

[MHL]

Last night was somewhat uneventful, unforntunately I did a lot of the talking. We came into the sports bar hardly anyone there and got them to put the UNC / NC State Bball game on the big screen. I flirted with the waitress a little, wanted to be upbeat as possible with what I had to say about D13's condition.

I delivered the severity of the sitch with our D13, who hates my W for what she has done and the lies she has told and continues to tell. My wife almost started to cry but kept it together. I did not lay any blame just stuck to where our D13 is emotionally. Told her all things aside, our D13 is the most important thing and I want her financial assistance with the psycologist.

I apologized for jumping right into to heavy stuff and asked her about her job. She is being thrown under the bus by her boss in front of the owner. I think it is a matter of time before she gets fired, they fire everyone all the time. She is also disenchanted with part time job at dept. store. Alot of dispare in her voice, I tried to give her reassurances and that she could do anything she put her mind too. She smiled and said thanks.

I asked her how she felt about the time she was spending with S9 (about 5 to 10 hours a week) she said it was great and thanked me for being so accomodating. I said no problem, and did not go into how I thought she should want to spend more time with him. She did say she would like to have a place of her own so S9 could spend the night with her on school night and make his lunch in the morning and take him to school.

This prompted a short conversation about her looking for a place. She has not looked at all, still not facing reality but she admitted that she probably could not afford it. (Welcome to Divorce) I recomended some areas to look in and we ended that part of our conversation.

Positives in the night were she got up to use restroom and left her purse and I assume her phone in the purse. I turned and did not even look at it just watched the game. Nothing to hide or is she starting to trust me?

She jumped at the opportunity to come be at the house with S9 while I am at work on Saturday and while I take D13 to Pysc. appt. Also wanted to see S9 on Sunday after church. Is she starting to reconnect with kids?

When we left the bar she walked with me and closer than she has before as we approached her car we both knew the moment was coming, hug, kiss, hug & kiss? I am 6'3" and she is 5'4" so when we hug her head tucks in under my chin. We did a sideways hug but she pull in a leaned her head on my chest and I rested my chin on her head. I wanted more but resisted, I looked at her and said "take care" and turned and went to my car. I was okay.