Thank you again everyone.

The OWH is unlisted in the phonebook, so i'm still trying to figure out a way to contact him.

H has texted me twice sense I last posted:
H: U want to talk now (I didn't respond)
H: (15 min later) U should call me now (I didn't respond)

I did find out (from his mom) that he came home early from work because he had an appt. She's thinking it was with a lawyer. I did talk to some lawyers today and all said there is no advtange to him filing first. However, if while we are seperated he deecides to stop paying any bills, then all adviced I file and get a temporary order for him to pay.


Together 16 years
Married 12 years
Me 36
H 34
D9 & S6
Separated 12/3/09
Confirmed A 1/25/10
Exposed A 1/26/10
H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10