I have friends who are having a VD get together. I am invited, X is not.

At this point of the year, I am awash in "this time last year we..." and that is truly sucking.

I am fine going to the VD potluck; better to be with friends even if they are all coupled up.

What's hard is as the months pass, I am running into more and more of how wonderful it was just this time last year. Why, I had just bought a new car, and he kept proudly referring to it as "our" car buying experience. Etc. Etc.

Well, VD will be over soon, and then there's not a lot of stupid holidays to get through.


Me: 44
Him: 42
Together: 23 years; never married
Bomb: August 1, 2009
Affair since May 2009
Walk away; no conversation; no process