X replied back with corrections to the taxes, fine.
And then a very formal .pdf, offering me $45K to get out of the house. It is actually the correct amount; he generously pointed out that I would really get $40k, but he will throw in $5K as "what we would have spent on court".
He lets me know that HE never agreed to a year. HIS sitch is such that he has to be out of his apt. by May. He feels he has more right to the house due to the emotional and sweat equity he put in.
Oh, so formal. These terms are to be agreed upon by March 31, 2010. Move out date is flexible, but by August 1.
Guess what? I get to keep the bedroom furniture. What a guy!
I was going to spend tomorrow calling lawyers anyhow. Just left a message with my cousin the L who is on vaca in Mexico. If there is anyway he can handle the bulk of the lawyering at a good or no cost, that will help a lot.
Of course, X has GF to help toss in some cash.
I'm just dying here. He generously gives me $45K and boots me down the street like an old shoe? unwanted, unneeded? He gets his life just exactly the way he wants it---house, new GF, same position in town, no change at all for him?
How did it come to this? how did a fairly friendly bill-paying event in December degenerate into L talk and .pdfs?
I did everything I was supposed to do... I let him go. I was NC. When we did have contact, I was happy and As If. No R talk , no pressure.
He is with someone that the gossip I just heard: " at the cast party, she seemed pretty drunk and inappropriate. She came up to me and said, "wow you have really great breasts!" WTF?
OW also told the director of the current play (to whom she commented on the breasts) that she would like to audition for the play. When she didn't the director said to X " I thought OW was going to audition?" X said "you didn't tell her when auditions were." Gee--you are so proud and happy with your new GF that you can't even tell her when auditions are, or where to look them up on half a dozen websites? doesn't sound like you are too proud of her!
Sorry, that's a rant.
I NEED HELP on the house thing. I know, I know, I can't do anything til I talk to a lawyer. L is number one.
Please help me to know that I can fight this. I CANNOT have her move her clothes into my closet! Put here toothbrush in my medicine cabinet!
Any help, any hope, any advice?
Me: 44 Him: 42 Together: 23 years; never married Bomb: August 1, 2009 Affair since May 2009 Walk away; no conversation; no process
