Coach mentioned the 5 Love languages. For some that might be crucial to do before Valentines day...especially if your WAS's love anguage isnt gifts.
I got my SO to take the quiz in the back of the 5LL book, and she scored 0 on the gifts questions. So getting her a gift is unlikely to do anything for her under any circumstances/occasion.
This es especially so since I'm somewhere between situations 1 and 2 on Coachs list. By V-day I might be in #2...but only if I can avoid any pursing between now and then. I would have been there already but I've kept slipping.
I would say if the situation is tense and theres frequent arguments, dont do anything. If it's somewhat positive, a card to let your WAS know you remembered might be in order but be sure it's not filled with "lovey-dovey" stuff as my SO would put it.
I'm going to give my SO a card from our daughter, and I also have a card for her thats complimentary but non-emotional, but I will hold off til closer to V-day to decide if I'm going to give it to her. I'd say outside of that, a family lunch might be the only other thing I may consider...but even that could be a pursuit unless she suggests it.
