So2 - What does it matter if he stops by when you are not home?
Just don't have your mother answer the door.
It is NONE OF HIS BUSINESS who you have babysit when you are out - and you CAN'T ask him, even if you wanted to, by court order!!
Practice these sentences for when you get asked or confronted:
It is none of your business.
I'm not discussing this right now with you.
I am abiding by the court-approved agreement and judgement.
His reactions to any of this are not YOUR business, in turn. Neither of you are responsible to be the other's emotional caregiver, or anything else, anymore.
