You can all say what you want about paying attention to V day as not meaning anything to her. But I guarantee you, if you do nothing, she will really hate you! Now, maybe that is what you want, if so, so be it. But if it's not what you want, I say, buy a da*m box of candy or a dozen roses at the supermarket. It's not that much skin off your nose. Especially if the kids are watching (which they are). You can say that it is for all your sweethearts, and just refer to the whole family.
My W won't hate me for not getting a gift on V-day, I think she would realize why. However...you hit on an excellent point: my kids ARE watching and have no idea their parents are on the brink of a divorce, so that is a major concern of mine.
Ok. Since you are on the brink for divorce. You buy nothing. Seriously. Do you think the kids are going to remember a box of chocolates or the fact that your spouse is leaving.
LBS Fog. That is all this is.
So here are your choices for those who's spouses are leaving.
1. Do nothing. Mute point. Need to worry about the marriage falling apart instead of these little distractions. Cause Anything I buy is pursuing. Why remind the spouse again that they have no feelings for me. Case closed 30 seconds of thoughts
Or
2. Spend 2 weeks going over and over in my head what should I get spouse. This could turn it around. Show them how nice I am and how much I love them. Its got to be perfect. Not to mushy but not cold at the same time. Man what to do. This is so difficult. I will hide the meaning of it by including < insert , kids , dog , cat , turtle >. I hope they like it.
I know what option I picked.
#1
And last time I looked #1 is me.
Go spend that 50 dollars on something worth while.
Flowers always make people better, happier, and more helpful; they are sunshine, food and medicine for the soul. unconditional love is awesome!
