Soaring Solo 2010

[Gnosis]

Gman, I've just caught up with your sitch. I'm sorry it had to go this far before you finally clicked and stopped being a doormat.

I saw your post on GIMA's thread and this is what I have to say:
IT'S ABOUT FARKING TIME YOU STOOD UP FOR YOURSELF!!!!!

With that said, I'd like to re-iterate the advice that KerryK and Gypsy have been giving you... "pick your battles carefully..." and heed your L's advice. It's good you've finally stood up for yourself, but be wary of pride - it has been the downfall of many a great man.

I think the shot across the bow for 2/3 is good. It will get their attention. Your insane W was looking forward to wiping the doggy-doo off her shoes into your face with those last two items. I am ECSTATIC that you didn't fall for that. So... now... with that knowledge in hand, here's your tactical advantage:

1) She has just seen the fortune that was almost in her fingertips evaporate... in front of her eyes.
2) She will NOT want this to go to court because it will delay her "lifestyle"

With that in mind... cancel all 27 compromises you made in the meeting on 2/3. BE COMPLETELY unreasonable... (to a certain degree...) That's the way negotiation happens. Make it seem that you are unwilling to bend and you will see them in court. Let her know that you are not afraid to lose every cent. This will strike the fear of the devil (note: I didn't say God) in her.

Win back as much as you can... I know you want out ASAP... but this has gone beyond this. This has become a matter of dignity. Meet with your L beforehand and discuss this with him. Get his advice on what is the best way to handle this... tell him what you want to achieve... and then let him handle it. REMEMBER ONE thing: The objective is NOT to end up in court but stop at the final step before court.

Godspeed and His blessing be with you....

and in case you forgot... IT'S ABOUT FARKING TIME!!!!