Ring On or Ring Off????

[ddstartingover]

Actually it was my daughter................and no, I wouldn't say he was especially nice to me. We had a conversation. Nothing has changed since yesterday. Nothing has changed in 2 years.

Today I'm questioning the sanity of my continuing to put off the inevitable. Will being uncooperative make him change his mind? I don't believe that it will. Drew was right. It will piss him off. What will that accomplish?

I don't want a divorce, but it seems like it doesn't matter what I want. I don't think it's mattered in a long time.

An exerpt from a recent e-mail:

I know about the vows. I've broken them and don't want to fix it. You say that love is unconditional, but I've lost that and don't want to find it. I'm very, very sorry that I disagree with you so strongly. My "don't know how to act" is the difficulty I have in doing what I want rather than do "what's right." I know your position is "right," but I just don't want it. It's not a comfortable feeling because under yours and everybody else's definition it's wrong. But it's not wrong in my mind.

Will dragging my feet, or being uncooperative be good for ME? my kids?? Has anyone been in this position and had things turn around and restore their marriage?

My kids come first. Always.