Hi Aver,
I'll check in on your thread but wanted to see how you're doing today. I think it can't hurt & can only help to get L opinion on your options. IMO, all the smartest people on here say to do this. And it was good advice for me, so maybe it will be for you too.

How do we know if we're a better person, after going through this h*ll?? I sure don't have all the answers, but I do think you are beating on yourself right now. I think when I am most down about my sitch is when I feel the worst about myself. You can't see the improvements right now, you are in too much pain. I have felt this way too. I tend to pound on myself during the times I should be kindest. Our perspective gets skewed. We can't see clearly then.

Are you going to an IC? A good one can help you get perspective. Aver, you can't see it now, but you are changing. Think how self aware you are now. Go back & read some of your posts. I know how bad this sucks & I am no expert on self improvement. You are dealing with a kind of crisis right now, give yourself a break. Now is probably not the best time for critical self assessment. Others on here probaby have better wisdom. I'll stop by your thread soon. Take care (((( )))))

Last edited by LookingFrAnswers; 01/27/10 09:10 PM.