Detaching does NOT mean you don't care or you will never hurt.
For me it does. The only way I know how to detach from W is to put her out of my mind and look forward without her. Otherwise, I can't detach.
Kevin
I get the feeling you would rather be here doing what you do, in 10/20 - 30 years, even to your death bed, not ever having GAL or learning to be happy on your own, than to change. And you'll call that "standing" and I feel so sorry for your d's. They'll be taught that if you close your eyes and wish super hard and believe things will get better and "just pray, fast and have faith"..(but don't ACT or DO anything different or ask God to help show you what you should change) that they'll get what they want, OR NOT...and they can tell the world that their "faith" was the best strongest faith but alas, it wasn't God's will.... This way they, like you, are not really responsible for your life or happiness. If prayer alone doesn't work...then pray more....?? j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
