Looking for Advice

[gutwrenching]

And I forgot to mention, there was no R talk last night, but there was little interaction at all between us. She wasn't friendly but wasn't unfriedly.

So taking the see what works approach, i need to adjust. If she goes to the bedroom instead of the basement again (which had positives for me in the form of more sleep and she had to deal with the kid that wouldn't go to sleep), I will try not leaving the house, maybe I create more mystery by staying in the house and staying busy and not checking in on her. I would have never guessed that, but maybe.

And when I came back to the house, I had sweets. Before I left, W suggested I bring back something with frosting. I did and TM her in bedroom that I had treats but no food in bedroom. She relied Yea!, came down after a bit, but really didn't seem to be a big hit. Again, wall was up yesterday and again this morning. Saw it when I told her how great it was to have her home to the treats to talking about the kids this morning.

Lost - I saved talking about the appreciation of being a single parent. I just didn't get the sense she was interested in listening to me last night, so I let her do most of the talking and will save that one and it'll have more impact if she comes home early again. There are a couple of people at work who I know can sense that we are having issues...one of them is riding her butt hard every day to let go of work and go home...I'm sure they think that is part of the problem...so she is suddenly getting outside pressure to spend more time at home. So maybe she will come home early today. She did tell me that her friend who knows of our issues was in her office checking on W and W told her to leave so she could go home. That to my knowledge is a first.