What to do, what to do?

[LuLu]

Thanks flowmom. I think H is not completely out of the fog. He did see OW only about 3 weeks ago, it was platonic but still those feelings. And yes, I was not the posterchild for DB'ing and it was ridiculously obvious in MC. I was complaining about H and meanwhile I was being so angry and bitter. You are so right about the telling of "our side". That's exactly how the previous sessions were...until this past one last night. I realized that those things weren't working and my time was ticking. Time for change, you know?

Last night in MC, I was humble and I listened more than talking. It was hard because H kept saying how he didn't see any hope for us and that he wasn't in love with me anymore and didn't think that would ever change. Hard words to hear but it wasn't anything I hadn't heard before. I listened and validated.

The MC did trip up H in his train of thought a few times. H said that he thinks the right decision is to just end things. He'd also said how he hadn't been sleeping well lately. MC said if he felt he was making the right decision, why is he not sleeping at night? If it was the right decision, you would be sleeping like a baby. I think maybe it did help. MC ended the session with, "So, we'll see you in 2 weeks?" and H said, "Yes." I thought that was huge.