Detaching does NOT mean you don't care or you will never hurt.
For me it does. The only way I know how to detach from W is to put her out of my mind and look forward without her. Otherwise, I can't detach.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...