Ok, so last night. I went in my wife's purse. I'm not sure why there was a reason, i wasn't spying or anything but i went in her purse. In her purse she had a list of things that she would be giving me in the D. W is also a list writer. She wrote a list of things she wants changed around the house as well as things things that need to be taken care of. On this list was the D word.
The list of things she would give me in the D is gone. Also the list of things she needs to get done that had the D word on it has the D word crossed out.
So, that was a breath of fresh air. I almost decided to chicken out on setting the boundary about OM. However, i heard puppy, burt, couch, sandi and robx yelling at me. So, i manned up and did it.
I told her that it was unacceptable to be speaking to OM on FB. That i am willing to give up all the work, I have been putting into this marriage. If she continues to have him as a friend that i will be moving on. I explained to her, that she is giving him the impression that our marriage will end soon and he has a chance. This is unacceptable to me.
She did what most of you said she would. She said "Just when i think we are finally working things out." She explained "How much of a hypocrite i was and how much of a fool she was for allowing me to have friends that bugged her in the past."
I did not devalue her. I allowed her to have her emotions. I told her that i was wrong in the past and i want to be in a marriage where this doesnt even have to be asked. It would just be done.
She said "She will remove him." I am still waiting for that to happen. However, if she choices not to. I will continue on my path. I will sleep somewhere else i will not sleep in her bed. I will do whatever it takes.
All that suggests is that the list is in an alternate location removed from your site - I wouldn't consider this a victory, don't be that naive.
