Your's was very obvious as not having a snowballs chance in hell of being restored.
I am not one to give others false hope where there is none.
The cold hard facts are that by the time most people enter these forums, their marriage is to the point already of being doomed. However, I can say that I have witnessed but a few that survived. And I know of several now that I think can be turned around. What is more important in my opinion is the saving of the individual and allowing them and their children to move through the crisis in tact.