I can remember back to the days when I would think out actions and do things based on how it would affect STBXW. No more.

I agree above. Do things now because you CHOOSE to do them...you DESIRE to do them or PREFER to do them.

Of all the cliche things you see here, one is really true. H should be a desire or preference to be with...not a need.

I agree with the statement above that this hasn't been a marriage for quite some time. This is going on now for....how many years?

FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;