I'm scanning the posts this morning found this on Lost1234's thread (hope Lost doesn't mind if I repost) but I wanted to remind you that the "fixer" tendency is something a lot of women struggle with so you are NOT ALONE!
"One of the hardest things for me with all of this, is I too am a fixer of sorts. I am a natural caregiver. So for me it was very difficult to not want to try something, anything, to fix this and make it better. Better for who, at the beginning I would have said H, but now I have to admit that it is better for me. As I understood more of what I was dealing with, and I started “fixing” myself instead of worrying about him, girl, it was leaps and bounds.
Yes it is hard to not “fix” for him. It is hard to say, his choices and his consequences. Because I know they could have been different. But the bottom line is, if he wants things fixed, it is up to him to do that work."
