You have been here for a little while, so I am going to assume that you know the DB basics.
I DID read your: Naughty or Nice thread in Newcomers, I bring that up, because while, yes, it IS actually funny. It is also something you are proud of. Which worries me about a possible mean streak in you. If not mistaken THAT was a PA? Which unless I missed it, you are claiming here that none happened?
So while you have said that you are neither flippant, and you realize that you are not perfect, would you say that you had forgiven her in the past or are her mistakes something she is constantly reminded of by you?
You are going to get good advice here, but it comes much more slowly than in Newcomers...but a little faster than WAH or Sexual Issues.
Your wife, man if there isn't SOME sort of mental issue in her head...then (to me) she is devoid of some of the basic morals most people have.
From what you have posted about your past, you seem like a good man, but here in MLC, the LBS can always become better.
The most basic things, and I would like your input about you. Did you keep reminding her about her past mistakes.? Are you passive aggresive? Are you a patient man?
We work on ourselves here. : )
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
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