Well, if you have decided how you will do things why bother posting here anymore? Can you be clear about what you hope to get from this message board? Support only in the way you want it? What is it that you need from the other forum members?
It is very unfair for you to say that everything your W does is taken as a negative "around here". For one, none of us know your W therefore we don't know everything she does. Second, the positive things she is doing is for her and her only. Third, it is much easier to see the big picture when you are not so emotionally vested in a situation.
People can change. No doubt about it. Just because they make positive changes in their life it does not mean a marriage will ever be restored. It is not something you can bank on at all.
Just like my H has no respect for me unless he needs something (or he is called out on it then he fakes respect for a bit then goes back to his old ways) it seems to me that your W has no respect for you either unless it benefits her.
Good for her if she is back in Church. That is a positive for her and has nothing to do with you or your M. Good for her that she used logic and took a long term job with decent pay and benefits in his horrible economy over a short term high paying job. Again, good sense that has nothing to do with you. It was for her own comfort. None of those things are negatives AT ALL but they have nothing to do with you.
