I know this is a tough time right now, but it's good that you are able to get it all out. I think it's really good that he knows that you aren't just going to be walked all over any more. If he still wants to come home, at least he knows what he is contending with.
That OW's H thing is a tough one. In some ways, he should know, but on the other hand, it will come off as revengeful. Does he really not know the extent of their relationship? And how could any man be ok with another man sleeping with his wife?
Any responses from H after your texts about willing to come clean or anything?
Me 27; H 28; S 2 Togeth 9; M 4 Sep 11/14/08 EA OW1 Sep 08 EA OW2 Mar 09 EA OW3 Jun 10