Shasha, when we found the OM, that guy for whom we would walk away from the man who married us, there was a price tag attached. Nothing is free. We knew when we chose that path that there would be a price to pay. And we said, "I don't care what the cost is; I want him." The thing is, a person really ought to consider what a choice will cost them before they decide that price is no object. This is the cost.
I know it is frustrating sometimes, and disheartening, and confusing. Going on four years later I am still discovering ways in which I can be made to pay for my infidelity by fate/god/my H. I never anticipated these "expenses" and I don't have to roll over and say "Woe is me; this is my lot in life and my punishment for bad choices." But I do accept that I caused my own grief.
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It's BS like that....which led me to the A in the first place.
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I would respect him even more for being honest and not making up lame excuses after the fact.
Do you see the connection between these two statements? In one breath you accuse him of making excuses and in the next make one for yourself.
undefeated 24 H 24 S's 4, 2, 1 M 5 yrs
"Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all." ~Dale Carnegie
