Is it me? Or is it really everyone else? lol.

[Tomato]

I guess I am starting to see some traits in her again that I haven't seen for a very long time.

Kevin

Here's an interesting question for ya. What do you think she is seeing in terms of what you are casting off from your person? It would be best probably to not give a knee-jerk response answer but think that one over for a bit.

bro' T

[K4D]

I'm not sure what she is seeing as I need to give that some thought. But I appreciate the talk on the phone tonight Tomato. You are correct in some things you said.

She did say earlier that the move to Plano will be easier now that her job will be located up in that area.

One thing I do wonder is whether or not she sees that I still love her or not because hugs seem to be a bit more frequent now. Does she see me letting go? Even though yall may not, does she see it? Otherwise, why the hugs? Why the friendliness the past 2 months? What is she seeing now that is different than what she saw before that kept her completely pulled away from me?

Kevin

[MrBond]

Sometimes I can't believe you're an adult.

Let's see, what does she see? Hmmm. Could it be a guy who is willing to give her money when she wants with no obligations?

She's being NICE. Or at least nice in her eyes because you keep giving her stuff. So you think she's turning the corner. Admit it! You wouldn't keep asking yourself and us these things over and over again if you didn't.

Let's face it. It was less than a month ago that you were pissed off at her, ready to leave, condemning, etc. She's being polite and you keep falling for it.

Oh no let me guess, you're going to deny that like you always do. You're going to say that you realize she's not coming back, blah blah blah. Well if so, then why do you keep asking the same questions?

She's just being nice.

Sorry to hear about your job.

[Tomato]

Sometimes I can't believe you're an adult.

nice putdown man. silly me, and to think I believed for all this time this place was a place for support and encouragement when needed.

I hope people are supportive on your thread.

[Startingover2]

Maybe her niceness is just friendly civilized coparenting? Maybe her niceness was for a reason....financial help? If it were consistent changes over time then maybe it would be different, but she seems to only be nice when she wants something or guilt gets her.

Any luck in the job sitch?

[ppenton]

K4D, maybe W is being nice cause you are projecting niceness back to her. Not sure, but keep driving towards setting your career to take care of your girls.

[K4D]

No phone calls yet on a job. Still looking and sending out resumes.

Stuck, Its ok. I admit that I am not always as strong as I should be.

Kevin

[K4D]

Thinking about sending this to W to show my support for her. But I am running it by here first.

W,

I just wanted to let you know that I am proud of you. You are doing a lot of positive things in your life. You found a good permanent job. You are going back to church and even singing in the choir. You are really a great mom. You are really showing a good outlook on life.

I think you are doing great.

Kevin

[Super Girl]

Why?

[Startingover2]

Thinking about sending this to W to show my support for her. But I am running it by here first.

W,

I just wanted to let you know that I am proud of you. You are doing a lot of positive things in your life. You found a good permanent job. You are going back to church and even singing in the choir. You are really a great mom. You are really showing a good outlook on life.

I think you are doing great.

Kevin

IMHO, NO NO NO!

So what is so great about her now? Her new steps are not bringing her closer to reconciliation. They are for HER and her alone.

Someone made a few comments awhile back that she wasn't going to file for D until she got in a position to not have to pay you as much CS...maybe taking this pay cut will put her in that position now and she did it on purpose.

YOU can do this! YOU don't need this flaky, mean, vindictive, cheating, lying woman!