For me I got married on the 13 of Feb last year and have not even really thought about the anniversary or v-day.
I will have my d2 be my valentine and get her a sweet stuffed animal and some candies, yes bad but more of a day to spread love of all kind not just for h/w and lovers.
i think we set ourselves up for failure by looking at that day as the be all of romance/dates/gifts. i always believed it should be all the time.
Me 39 H 30 d 18 previous marriage d 2.5 with H s 4.5months with H Seperation Nov09 july i'm dim to dark - set internal deadline