Yes he is on the fence. Yes you should expect nothing! He is trying to decide if this is a good idea or not! Listen to what he is telling you! I read he talked to his friends or family already. He has taken note of your expressed desire to have kids. He believes you have a trap of trying to get pregnent! You had an affair for 4 months, you told him through those actions you wanted something else/Better!
You still speak of what he did not do for you! I will be straight, I would not contact him again and if he cancells the date accept it! Do not guilt him as you have at this point anymore. I think you may need to figure things out on your own a little more!
Some questions for reflection!
Why do you still have contact with the OM, is he plan B? Are you happy and content with yourself or does it depend on having a relationship? Do you love him and do you acknowledge that love is giving not receiving? being loved is receiving.
I am not asking you to answer these in this forum, I am merely suggesting you spend some time on you! Because what I read is that of a frustrated "child like" person who is not getting their way and is not happy about the consquences of their actions!
Give him the control, do not lay down and be a door mat but I would recommend showing love in the form of what does he want? Chances are he does not know, respect and accept this and if you are rejected say you understand and revisit you!
Married:10 years D final 8/28/08 10 minutes is all it took Life goes on and DB was no small part in growing from the Divorce!
