I'm sorry things have taken a turn in this direction. I hope you realize that this is far from over.
I too went to a pisss poor MC. I mean terrrible.... I don't have much faith in most. They are people with their own issues and opinions just like the rest of us.
The funny thing is though, because they are labeled a C, many people think whatever they say must be right. F that. C's are people and like people there are good and bad ones.
Originally Posted By: Was2sad
Not to take free shots at her, but it doesn't sound like she knows long term what she wants from life, despite her note about "an active plan for the future" or "the challenging things going on and the need to change". Hindsight is me having my head up my - - - for thinking she wanted to work at anything, and not presuming her note to be total alien speak. She's good.
Her letter is very interesting. They tend to speak in code.
I don't doubt that she feels this way. IMO however, it is one big projection. Her speaking of the importance of having a plan...... In MLC terms or Alien speak as you like to call it probably means she feels lost and I don't have to remind you that she is incapable of looking inward at the moment so who's to blame? You.
She speaks of needing this big change. On one hand she is correct, things need to change, again however, as ALL MLC'ers do or can't do I should say. She can't seem to accept the fact that SHE is responsible for this change that needs to take place. Not you....
As far as the money is concerned, par for the course in mlc land. She's shooting herself in the foot here. What she is failing to realize is that you will not be around to support her after getting what she thinks she wants.
She is depressed and hurting, desperately looking for a quick fix or the path of least resistance. Blame you and the marriage is it for now.
Most of them will have to learn for themselves, that the only way to get through this is to face their fears and deal with their issues. You have to let them go to travel down every dead end road. She has to see for herself.
