No Code...I can only comment on my sitch, and how I choose to react when chitt flares up. Take what you want...

I got a call yesterday that my STBX plans to visit S16 in the hospital on Sunday, at the same time I am planning a visit w/ several strong people who are close to S16 and care about him. His favorite teacher, a trusted family friend...good, stand-up men.
And I totally freaked out. eek shocked cry crazy sick mad
What should have been a fun afternoon (at the hospital, if that's possible) playing cards, BS'ing, male bonding, has now been ruined by the prospect of my STBX showing up.
And who is letting it get ruined? Me.

For whatever reason, this man triggers my fright/flight response. I can control how I respond or react to the mention of his name.

Get it?

And yes, the new apartment is wonderful. Thanks for the continued prayers for my little family.

Me:44, WAW hx bi-polar H:48, hx of abuse
S:22, S:19, D:16
Filed Oct 08, dismissed
Filed again Jan 10, dismissed
Now Piecing
alter persona: SuperBoots